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Using Love Languages for self-care and self-soothing

Using Love Languages for Self-Care and Self-Soothing

November 22, 2019 | Handouts, Self Care

Have you heard about Love Languages, as developed by Dr. Chapman? To be perfectly honest, I don’t know much about it. What I know, is that it centres around the idea that we all express love and receive love best according to different “languages”: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Acts of Service, Physical Affection, and Gifts. Depending on what your language is, you’ll prefer to connect to others in different ways. As an example, look at this practical (and funny to me) summary using tacos to explain the different types:

When I first heard about love languages, I started playing with it: what are my love languages? What about my partner’s? But then, I also realized that knowing what makes me feel loved could help me show love to myself. In other words, if you know how to feel loved, you could use that knowledge to find ways to help yourself feel cared for and how to self-soothe. Knowing how to do this is important, because it can help you take care of yourself and regulate the intensity of your experience. It’s all about our ability to let ourselves know we’re not alone, and to calm down when big things happen for us. Just like someone might do for a child or a friend going through a rough time, we can do the same thing for ourselves.

If the above makes sense, the invitation is this: figure out what your language is, if you don’t already know. There are many quizzes online for this. Once you know how you express and receive love best, you may choose to download and fill out this free handout. I’ve also made this handy infographic, which I hope gives you some ideas about how to use these languages to care for yourself:

I grew up speaking Spanish. English is my second language. When I communicate in English, I make mistakes. I've chosen to let the writing on my blog reflect the kind of mistakes I make when speaking, so that you have an idea of what it might feel like to talk to me. I trust the message is still clear but, if it's not, please don't hesitate to ask me for clarification.

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