Adapting to change through curiosity
April 07, 2020 | Awareness, General, Self Care
Life has changed. In the past few weeks, I have done my best to adapt to the new normal. I run my practice fully online now. To do so, I researched multiple video call platforms, read enough Privacy Policy documents to last me a life-time, talked to several colleagues, and studied best practices for telepsychology….
Micromeditating as self care
February 28, 2020 | Awareness, Connection, Self Care, Spirituality
Finding time to engage in self-care can be hard. We live such hurried, busy lives! Knowing how important self-care is motivates me to keep trying to make time for it. Also, it feels really good to take care of myself. A fail-safe way for me to make time for it is to do things that…
Is telling the trauma story necessary?
February 10, 2020 | Awareness, Trauma
Over the past three and a half years, I’ve supported and learned from people who have experienced sexualized violence. Many of them went through that and other forms of violence in their lives. I’ve seen the way that being hurt by other humans harms people. I’ve had the honour of accompanying them as they healed…
Why do we have emotions?
January 26, 2020 | Awareness, Emotions
I love asking this question to my clients. Why do we have emotions? Despite the social demands telling us we should be rational (as if that were really possible, but that’s a topic for another post), the truth is we need emotions. They motivate us, they lead us into action, the tell us about our…
Who are you? Figuring out who we are
December 02, 2019 | Awareness, Spirituality, Universe
Back in high school, a friend, thinking she was being very clever, asked me “Who are you?”. The idea was that, no matter what the answer, it was always wrong. “I’m Consuelo.” = I didn’t ask for your name. Who are you? “I’m a person.” = I didn’t ask what kind of being you are….
Speaking the languages of the self
November 26, 2019 | Awareness, Body, Emotions, Mind
I see us people as incredibly complex and social creatures. We have a degree of consciousness we don’t see in most other beings (of course, we’re not certain), and which has helped us expand our presence in this world to a great degree. Awareness has given us choice, among other benefits. I think that, along…
The Window of Tolerance
November 11, 2019 | Anxiety, Awareness, General
My last two posts have been about anxiety and how we begin to work with it. In the latter, I mention that I think of self-regulation as hijacking what is happening to our brains to help us come back to a place of calmness. Add to this returning to curiosity, and capacity to manage what is…
How to chill: Grounding Skills
November 08, 2019 | Anxiety, Awareness, Body
In my previous post, I talked about anxiety. In there I said that, before we can change what causes anxiety, we need to tell our bodies that we’re safe enough now. This is what I call self-regulation or, as the title suggests, chilling. I heard once that anxiety is all about the future: what if?…
Therapy and Plenitude
November 01, 2019 | Awareness, Body, Connection, Emotions, Mind, Society, Universe
In my profile on Instagram, I say that I work from a holistic, feminist, and intersectional lense. In practical terms, this means that when I work with someone, I think about them as a whole, and also about how their self affects their environment and vice versa. Let me explain. The person as a whole…